Online Romance Scams Are on The Rise: How To Be Safe

Online Romance Scams Are on The Rise: How To Be Safe

However, what you don’t know is this: Is this woman into me? That’s the noodle spinner, isn’t it? It’s not always an easy task to discern in case a woman is into you or not. Nonetheless, there are some tell tale signs that, if you’re astute enough an observer, will lead you in the right direction when you ask yourself whether to pursue or not. Now, I realize that there are many, additional than five techniques to figure out in case a new lady-friend is interested in you; but for this cat, we’re only exploring some of the more obvious cues that women give if they’re interested in a guy aka you! Is she engaging you?Is your date digging in and trying to find out more about you? This one may be iffy. I say that because any woman with a half a brain can ask you questions. Nonetheless, is she asking you questions that you’d expect in some sort of interview environment? Or are her questions more unique; as though she’s really trying hard to get to know you? This is important, you see. One truth is that everybody else likes to explore themselves. So when a woman can put her own personal interests aside, in favor of chatting her date up you know she’s a catch.

Also note your date’s facial expressions. Is she looking you in the eye as you answer your questions? Does she seem bored? ( I know, I know, but that’s a good bloody indicator that she’s not into you.) Does she get your brand of humor?Again, this one can be iffy. Generally, most any woman will tell you that a sense of humor is right up there with breathing in terms of most desirable qualities in a man. You, friends and family and your mom may think you’re the funniest guy in the whole-wide-room; nonetheless, your date may want to choke you out “Gracie-Style.” While that might be a fun adventure, it surely points to a dead end in your dating journey. If you relax and show your wit and humor and your date responds positively (aka laughing) then you’re on the right track. That’s one more obstacle down and no need to over do it. Body LanguageThere are many, many experts who know way more on this subject than I do. I am able to only speak from personal experiences. I feel that body language silently communicates a person’s feelings and/or intentions. For instance, if I’m raising my eyebrows at my date rapidly then that probably means I’m trying to tell my date: “Hey, baby, wanna bed down right now?” Thus far, which includes never ever worked for me. Some girl freaked out and thought I was having a seizure… Anyway, moving along… Things a woman will do to silently communicate that she’s into you: Look you directly in the eye. Women who are comfortable tend to communicate much more making use of their hands Laugh at your lame jokes. If she’s sitting across from you, she’ll lean toward you rather than away. She’s prone to touch you.

No, perv, not in THAT way!! Instead, your date may caress your hand, your shoulder. She may take your hand or hold you arm in arm. Is your date comfortable telling you about herself? I’ve been on dates where in actuality the woman I’m out with is very quiet and not really forthcoming with the autobiographical details. That can be good or bad; I’ve experienced both. On one hand your date could just be nervous and is frozen in trying to think of details to tell you that will make her seem irresistable. This is fairly normal, I might add. So be patient and understanding and don’t be afraid to take up the conversation should your date drop the ball on you. Sometimes your date may just be a shy person or they just don’t overrunneth on the conversational material; if that’s the case, generally, you date can be aware of such. They may even tell you, “Oh, I like listening to what you have to say.” If that’s the case, chat away. You’re in good shape. Nonetheless, if your date is merely giving you short-closed answers then that might be an indicator that you may not be headed to pants paradise. This particular topic will be discussed in more detail in another article about keeping conversations flowing titled “the Conversationalist Sensasionalist.” Keep your eyes open on this one kids. If your date is keen on telling you about her family, her interests and things that she does to keep busy it’s usually a good sign. If your date has follow up questions for you after each of your interrogation like questions then that is also an excellent indicator that you’re on the right path. Does your date hint at a later meeting?This one may seem silly, but it’s not.

What I’ve found is that if your date talks about future activities with you somewhere down the road then that’s a good thing. Obviously you’ll want to try this yourself if you’re into your date. But note if your date does try this; it’s her way of saying she’d like to see you again you big clod. But don’t over react if you hear this.

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Play it cool. And Then…..No and then!!! If you note just a few of these hints mentioned in your date then you’re in an excellent place and primed for another date with your would be wife to be, or not. Just be cool, avoid being a terd; be the smooth talking Urban Dater we raised you to be fine. Promise.  If you’re not fine, then it’s undoubtedly Miss C’s fault. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading…Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, For Men, Tips & Advice Tagged in: advice, Dating by Jason Devaun –[email protected]/ I’ve talked about talking dirty and how to go about it in the past.

I haven’t really covered how guys like dirty talk, too. It’s not all that surprising. Women and men are, all things considered, sexual beings. The one thing I think a lot of folks, or at least some of the fellas I know, seem to believe that dirty talk is a specific-use-case weapon, purely situational…this is soooo very wrong! Any time is a superb time to tell that special someone the method that you want to fuck ’em and doing so with playful word choice that triggers just the right response! I saw you could make a whole-day activity out of talking dirty. Yep, I sure do! Now, obviously it helps if your guy is a dirty talker, too.

If he’s not a dirty talker then it’s an uphill climb. I have to tell you, nothing kills a boner, or lady-boner, like a person who doesn’t have a fucking clue how to talk dirty. Talking dirty is an important part of communication! If you can’t tell your significant other how bad you wish to fuck their brains out then how the fuck will you ever resolve the toilet paper roll conundrum! Breakfast is the Most Important Meal regarding the Day… Not so long ago I was seeing a gal who was fairly brazen in thought and deed. We had a fun couple of weeks. One early morning, before going on a run, the object of my desire slowly crawled on top of me and whispered, “Hey, wake up…” followed by kisses on my neck and ears, as she gently stroked my chest with her nails. “Hey, guy, wake up,” she kept saying. I was tired, but in a pleasant mood. We didn’t have sex right then, she lay there on top of me, still whispering, asking, “How long are you going to be this morning?” (Of course, referring to my run.) “ I don’t know how long I am able to hold out,” as she danced a sole finger all over my face and to my chest again, making a shape. “Do you know what this is, I’m drawing on you?” She asked, “It’s a penis. Your penis.

Don’t make me wait too long,” as she not so gently shoved me out of bed, taking the covers with her… Needless to say that early morning gesture was, ahem, on my mind the complete morning. Running twelve miles with an erection is not easy folks. Runners need adequate blood flow and shit! The way this gal talked to me–I still think about it sometimes. It was the sincere desire, mixed with the playfulness, that melted my concentration. Honestly, I’ve maybe had that with one other woman before…’Tis a rare treat. The take away is that if the mood hits you, irrespective of time or day, let loose your sexy thoughts. Tell your man how you want him or the method that you want him to take you. I might like havin’ a little Afternoon Delight In case you didn’t know it, my kryptonite is the little black dress.

No lie. I fucking roll over and lose any sense of self around a woman rocking the LBD; I shiver just thinking about it. Given that this blog is somewhat easy to find, as are my blog posts, there have been a few times in my dating career where a woman has found the Urban Dater and caught wind of my love of the little black dress. One such gal started off the morning by sending me a pic of her heels and the dress she would wear for our date. She asked, seemingly innocent enough, “So, this mightn’t be too dressy for our date later would it?” Now, this was a first date. I had intentions of drinks somewhere, perhaps a bar, or Subway or some shit, but I quickly changed course and came up with place better suited for a lady in a LBD. To say I couldn’t keep my shit together was an understatement. This really is pretty much how everything looked to me the rest of the day. I got exactly zero shit done that day in the office, surprising not even my boss who knew I was a fuck up anyway, but I digress. “There’sth mo’ tah life than puthy, mang!” Sure, boss, sure! So I only had a few bits of information to go on about my date from pics and phone conversations and messages. I knew that she was tall and she was cute and my imagination took that information and produced a crazy number of images of this gal in her little black dress that would even make Pinterest blush! Do you see the common thread here? There’s a certain element the imagination that is hard to deny. Your guy will be sitting at his desk, with a chubby, just waiting to man handle you; you will be on his mind in relentless fashion.

Behold but one small weapon at your disposal to break your man’s will sap his need to do anything meaningful with life. I don’t know why they call it a Walk of Shame. You just had sex last night and now everyone knows it. Appears like a Walk of Win to me.

Online Dating: What to Say in a First Message.

Sooner or later things will induce a evening rendezvous, if you’ve been carefully crafting a sexually charged dialogue you might want to tear into one another. I’m going to tell you to hold off on that just yet. There’s no significance of that sort of nonsense! You’ve worked so hard and the anticipation is probably at a fever-pitch at that point. Play it cool. You could be playful and pretend to be upset, telling your beau how pissed off you are at him. When he asks why, it is possible to tell him that you didn’t have a change of panties because of how wet he made you…that’s never a bad starter. Image from: One time, at band camp…I had hopped into bed with my ex and pretty much thought it was lights out and off to dreamland. We often chit chatted about the day to check out and other random shit that was just for us. One particular evening, my gal had said, “Hey!” I grumbled a “whatchoo want, foo?” She said, “Check this thing out…” I chuckled. “What thing,” I asked.

She lifted up the covers; she’d slipped off her PJs and unmentionables…and with a very serious face, said “there… something’s up!” She was funny this way; it was one of the ways we could be weird with one another. So I rolled over and slid down to inspect the area in question. “Um, I can’t see anything here… Derp!” I’m kissing and nibbling down there. She told me, “Keep looking…more. Keep. Looking!” She then got louder with the moaning, and I could tell she was into what I was doing. Don’t worry, I wasn’t down there with a shovel and pick-axe–just my tongue, people. Her telling me what she wanted and moaning (without over doing it) was a turn on for me–knowing I can get a woman off is a lovely thing. Sure, there are those carnal moments when, as sexual being, you wish to take what you desire with impunity. That said, it is possible to talk without saying words; if you like what’s being done let your guy know…BUT (and a very big BUT) is don’t over do that shit.

That’s a chubby killer if ever there was clearly one. TL;DR Any time of the day or night is a good time to talk dirty. Communicate your desires, how you want him or what you want doing to him. Anticipation and the imagination are weapons at your disposal. Use them. Make him think about you all day. It should be comfortable with you, it should flow naturally. Pics and sexy commentary are your best friends.   Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading…

Share This Article Facebook5Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: For Women, Sex, Tips & Advice There is a popular saying in the dating community: “You can’t help who you are attracted to”. This means you can have a type or perception of what you like but attraction is much deeper. Attraction starts from the inside on a chemical and hormonal level. It seems to be hardwired in our systems on what attracts humans to other humans. One of these things is Confidence. Evolution and Confidence From an evolutionary standpoint, confidence shows dominance. Dominance has always been a trait in mammals that leads to attraction. Why is that? It comes down to security and survival.

we have been more complex than that of other mammals or humans centuries ago but that doesn’t mean it isn’t in our system. It’s on a deeper level; it’s subconscious. Humans and other mammals need security. Subconsciously, we needed to know that will are taken care of and will be suited for when hard times come around (if it’s money, a cold cold weather, or food on the table) and confidence suggests that you have things under control. By being confident, you give off the vibe that you got everything together and people want to be part of that for security reasons. This is why, people are chemically and hormonally attracted to you. Body Language and Confidence A statistic once revealed that only 4 percent of our communication is verbal. The other 96 percent is tone of voice, non-verbal commands, posture, the method that you present yourself (style), and so on. Should you want to convey confidence you have to display confidence. Here are the top approaches to look and convey confidence: Hold your mind up and stick chest out Keep your back straight Walk slower Wear fitted clothes If you’re a guy, lower your voice. If you’re a girl, raise it very slightly Be an animated talker (move your hands around when talking) Take up space when sitting down Practice these and with time they will become second nature and you will not only look confident but also feel confident. People will be aware of your movements and start to be attracted towards you.

The alpha male/alpha female The “alpha” is usually meant as the highest rank or leader. The alpha in the animal kingdom is the one who gets all the men/women. To make it to this status you must have dominance. You shouldn’t care what others do or think because you’re at the highest rank. Not saying you should be cocky but you need a powerful mindset where things don’t bother you. That is the key to being confident. Just like I mentioned before, you have to act like you’re powerful, successful, and got everything together. That attracts people because that is what they want also. Logan Mathis is the writer for the self-help site selfblend. He is A english graduate and currently lives in southern Illinois Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook0Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships Tagged in: attraction, confidence Relationships… They Ain’t Like They Was Once…

If you’re anything like me, in your 30’s, single, and ready to settle down, you could find yourself wondering… When did dating get so complicated? Remember what it was like a decade ago? You met someone, you got along, you found them attractive, and well…then you were a couple. Some of the complications have come with age. Look around at the dating pool of 30-somethings. It’s dwindled down quite a bit. At this point, you’ve probably noticed most of your friends are married, engaged, having kids, or at the very least…coupled up. Folks haven’t really started getting divorced yet. There’s not many of us left! I’d guess there are more singles in the pool at ages 40-50 than there are from 30-40.

In addition, at least for women, our priorities have shifted with age. At 22, all we wanted was a cute guy who had killer flip-cup skills and would split a bottle of Skoal vodka with us. We didn’t care that he worked at Starbucks, because, hell…you yourself worked as a waitress at Ponderosa. We didn’t bother about whether he could support a family, be a good father, or get along with our Dad. Now, while we still have to be attracted to a mate, the looks category has taken a back seat to things like stability, ethics, and paternal instincts. Take me for example, listed here is one automatic deal-breaker. I won’t date some one that doesn’t have a good job…it doesn’t matter what that job is (as long as it’s legal), but I need to know that one day I am able to stay home to improve my children and live comfortably. I know we’re in a recession, but it doesn’t matter. No job = no date. So as we age, not only has our dating pool suffered a major drought, we have to weed through a mess, searching for a person who meets our qualifications. And how do you weed people out? Why, facebook of course!!! Facebook is in neck-in-neck race with internet dating sites to ruin our lives. If you have ever been on,,, etc, you know what I’m talking about.

i’d like to make a little side note that I have witnessed some great relationships come off these sites, but which includes not changed my overall perspective. Remember what life was like before google, facebook and No? Me either. I mean, HOW did we go on a date with a man if we couldn’t stalk him beforehand. Each and every time I go on a date my friends ask “did you google him?” And I want to answer: “Yes. It came up as Joe Smith: chronic drug user, cheater, doesn’t floss his teeth, huge beer gut.” Come on people, what do you think you’re gonna find? Now, Google, of course, is just the first step in a long line of internet-driven psychotic behaviors. Google is the least of our problems. God forbid you actually have a good date, and you both are on facebook. To start with, you’d believe that making the decision to add someone on facebook is like trying to decide the fate of the free world. “What does it mean?” “Should I wait for him to add me first.” “How long do I wait to send a friend request?” We have been seriously a bunch of idiots. And when you do take that huge step and add the person as your friend, there is a good deal of work ahead of you. You then have to meticulously untag photos, change your bio, and also make sure that you do not say anything that could be misconstrued as stupid, desperate, ignorant, etc on your status update. After you censor your very own profile, you then become what is now known as a socially-acceptable stalker and go through his entire profile with a fine-toothed comb, over-analyzing every single post he’s ever gotten from any female. “Who is that girl?

Why is his arm around her in that photo? Is he wearing KEDS??? That BETTER be his cousin.…” You constantly check your chat box to see if he’s online, and if he will send you a message. You obtain pulled over for texting while driving, and then make an effort to explain to the officer that you weren’t texting, you were checking your boyfriend’s facebook page every 13 seconds. Just when you think he is ignoring you, you decide that you need to have “the talk.” You know – the one where you discuss if you are going to change your relationship status. Because also all know, no relationship is to be taken seriously unless you are “in a relationship” on facebook. The day you change your status to “in a relationship,” you even get a little heart on your profile and all friends and family can “like” it!! OH GOODIE!!! Uhhhhh Facebook is in neck-in-neck race with internet dating sites to ruin our lives. If you have ever been on,,, etc, you know what I’m talking about.

i’d like to make a little side note that I have witnessed some great relationships come off these sites, but which includes not changed my overall perspective.